Being in a Single Parent Family
A single parent family involves a parent who needs to take care of one or more children without the assistance of a life partner or a spouse.
It may be because of a decision taken by the parent or a result of an unexpected event that happened in the family.
While there are a number of reasons that may affect a parent to choose or be forced to pursue the alternative life of single parenthood, the most common reason why one ends up in one is because of divorce.
Marriages do end, every single day, and people are forced into being a single parent and as tough, or insensitive, as it may sound they have to get on with life and do what it takes to survive.
For people who have gone through a divorce, raising a child alone may be a very difficult task, because it does force you to make all the decisions and go through things that you may not be ready to deal with.
For single parents, the first year of adjustment may be the hardest phase to go through. Following are some of the things that you can do to help yourself in coping with single parenthood.
Join or get a support network For most people, having people to talk when in this situation is undoubtedly a great help. This is one of the things that single parents need to establish in the beginning. Look for people that you can relate to and depend on. These people may be your immediate family and people who are close to you. You can also consider joining a support group that can understand exactly what you are going through.
- Take time to be alone.
While this may be difficult because you are not the only one that needs attention at this point in your life, it is the only thing that can help you think about your situation. The moment that you could sit alone and ponder the circumstances is one of the most important things you should take advantage of at these times.
Be present with the children. You may be on the grieving stage but you need to be strong for your children. If you feel down and you need a good cry, then do so and explain to your children, why you are crying and that it has nothing to do with them. Convince them that you are there for them and they will understand why mom, or dad, is upset for the moment. It might not be easy for you to go through the motions of parenthood but you have to keep in mind that your kids are depending on you to be strong and to show them that even if things may not be going the way you want it to be, you will still be there no matter what.
- Stay Strong
The only person that can make you give up is yourself. That is why you need to know what can make you stronger and keep that with you during the times when you feel alone and you feel like giving up.
Ask for help
What you are going through is not easy. Don’t pretend that everything is fine. If you need a break, ask the people that you trust for support. Maybe all they can offer is a shoulder to cry on, or sit while you complain about your situation but it is definitely a sign of friendship to give some time and attention and one that will definitely be appreciated.
No matter how miserable things may look at present, and the days ahead may have nothing positive to offer, but you are not the first and you will definitely not be the last person to join the single parenting fraternity.
Bear in mind – it is a manageable task. People go through all sorts of adjustment to cope with single parenthood. Even when the idea of a solo parenting may be hard to imagine, having the strength to cope and knowing that you can survive the toughest is the best thing to keep in mind.
You can do it and you will survive as a single parent. Goo